Expectations.....

Expectations……

EXPECTATIONS….whoaaa heavy word…oh yes it has a heavy meaning even in our lives….We tend to expect in every phase of our life…it can be either small or big…

Its always said that unexpected surprises always brings "smiles" and expectations when not fulfilled brings "pain"…its commonly said NO EXPECTATIONS =NO DISAPPOINTMENTS

Expectations generally rise in any kind of relationships…a child will expect more and more love,care and attention from his or her parents ,a lover would expect care and love from his or her lover…

Expectations is a part of human nature…no one can run away from it how much ever we try….Life can be much more simpler and easier when there is no expectations…so should I call “expectations” to be evil???? Certainly yes, according to me because I being a human also suffer because of this…

Expectations also creates boundaries circling our own happiness…in a way I can also say that we depend on some other person for our happiness and hence we EXPECT…

We even expect a lot from our friends..but why?? Okay answer to this can be somewhere because we always expect from our near and dear ones..we always want to share our happiness with our closed one and “friends” make that major share amongst the closed ones…we expect our friends to be beside us during our hard times and etc etc..but is it fulfilled everytime???? The harsh reality and answer is NO….its not their fault …its just because we EXPECT…

From my personal experience, I would like to share when I was in a relation I always expected certain things from my partner and so did he…but when the expectations were not being fulfilled we always landed up in a dispute…but when those expectations were only fulfilled..that used to turn out like a big SURPRISE for me and henceforth bringing a smile on my face… Next,when someone is with some person almost everyday ,they tend to become a part of one’s life and hence starts expects the person to be the way the other person wants and when its not fulfilled,it results to an annoying attitude for the other who expected him or her to change….i remember  Paulo Coelho made a very perfect statement that “Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives but no one knows about his or her”

There is nothing wrong with expectations because in some way it sets goals and targets properly towards their fruition…but the instant we feel the pain over life of not going “my way”..our expectations starts taking clearly an improper  turn..

Its true that YOU DON’T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU EXPECT…I sometimes ask myself and wonder that wish someone was there to tell me that what expectations will actually ever get me in life?? Being a human I can never stop expecting and I know I have to make myself not vulnerable to getting hurt if they aren’t fulfilled…

All I can say is keep expectations but don’t expect them to be fulfilled always and hence life would be simple and full of joy….